In today's society, everyone is concerned about their rights and what they deserve. Many adults consider themselves oppressed and complain that they did not receive what they deserved. The requirements you formulate and the things you think you deserve will reach the ears of your children. They perceive the authoritative tone of your voice and the frustration that grinds you. The key question is: what do you want to teach them? That they have the right to get whatever they want? Or do they have to learn to be grateful for what they have and work if they want to achieve something? Do you not make their lives too easy if they satisfy all their desires?
You have the right to say "No"
You should not feel guilty in front of your children when you refuse something. The duty of a parent is to offer, first of all, unconditional love, endless respect and forgiveness. Then come the social duties: a comfortable home, healthy food and a good education, which will be useful in life.
But there is a lot of things you do not owe to your children. And then you have the right to say "no". Even if it seems paradoxical, saying "no" is still a way to show your love for children.
1. You don't owe them rewards every time they look nice
When your child is looking good, thank them and encourage them to maintain their attitude. It is not necessary to reward him materially, just because he has shown good manners. A child must behave beautifully because he or she should not expect something in return.
2. You do not have to do all the cravings
Children need to learn to appreciate the value of things, first and foremost, and be grateful for what they already have. Encourage them to save their pocket money and teach them how to increase their savings. Explain to them that sometimes they have to show patience and effort to fulfill their wishes. In life we don't always get what we want, when we want.
3. Children do not need admirers
Many teenagers suffer because they are not popular in school. Teach them about the true value of friendship, how to make friends and how to keep them. Some very good friends are more valuable than a lot of colleagues who want to enter them for various reasons.
4. Children should not have servants
Your role is parent, not housekeeper. Teach your children how to clean themselves in the room and how to complete small household chores. So you teach them to be responsible and take care of their things. These skills are also helpful at school, where they are required to be organized and follow certain rules.
5. Children should not always be served immediately
Patience is a difficult quality to form, but necessary. Teach your children to wait and not have the pretense of being served immediately. Patience lessons will be of great use to them later in life.
6. Children should not always win every game
Always letting your child win, when you play with him, is not the brightest idea. Every game has a winner and a winner. Children should be taught by the little ones how to lose, without being upset and without feeling frustrated. If you always let him win, you risk creating the feeling that he can never lose. As an adult, he will not suffer defeat and will be unable to overcome a loss. In addition, you put yourself in a position of inferiority to the child, and he will come to consider you a weak opponent, unworthy of him.
7. You should not always give justice to your children
Every one of us likes to think he's right all the time. Some adults are willing to admit that they were wrong, others are not. Your children face the same problem. It is your duty to teach them that they cannot always be right.
Mistaking is natural. Recognizing your mistake and learning how to fix it is a quality. This quality is formed over time, through a responsible education and by correcting the wrong behaviors, in a constructive way.
Of course, children will apologize for their behavior and try to justify it, with more or less solid arguments. As a parent, you must guide them to acknowledge their mistake, even if that means making them give up certain beliefs. Explain to them that they have the right to their own opinions, as long as they respectfully express them and at the right time.
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